Why lovers lose closeness in relationship over time


Love is one of the beautiful (if not the most beautiful) feeling that makes living and humanity worthwhile. It's a sweet feeling that sweeps a lady off her feet and as well takes away the coat of calmness from a man. As we never need a prophet to tell us when we see two people who are in a relationship bound in love, as its so much radiates that it becomes so obvious even for  the blind to see. It's said that no one gets tired of a mutual and genuine love as it engulfs both parties especially when both of them are just starting off.
 
Have you ever noticed that along the line after few weeks or months as the case may be it seems that the love is wearing off (fading away maybe a bit harsh) leaving both the man and the lady to figure out what went wrong and where. I have seen a relationship where both the guy and the lady started of as  the talk of the town but after a while though the were still together but there closeness and oneness degraded to 3 on a scale of 10.

Well the purpose of this writing is to discuss on three out of the causes why people lose the closeness shared at the beginning of the relationship.

*Background: A lot  of time when we start out in a relationship, it always seem like we have known our partner since eternity but we tend to forget that we both from different backgrounds(and even if you are don't forget that you still have issues with both your siblings and parents you have known since childhood). Knowing you partner's background give you a edge on knowing what he/she values and detests.


*Sometimes it was never love: I have see multiple of such cases when people mistake their obsession and lustful desire for love. One is love while the other is obsession or lust and this deteriorate the genuine feeling of love exhibited.

*Trust: I usually tell people that trust issue is a very complex one as it makes the bedrock of any relationship whatsoever and unlike the popular Yoruba adage (talking of the burnt palace that looks more beautiful after reconstructing) trust once lost in a relationship can never meet up with the initial if found again.
For some their trust meter is based on real and practicable situations while others seems so petty and insignificant( such as judging based on past actions or unconscious acts.

Where am driving at is this, mostly closeness wears off in a relationship out of sending a wrong signal to our partners because we really are not patient  to study and know more of our partners.

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